Years ago, I gained 40 pounds. The story behind that will have to take up a whole ‘nother post — and likely a drink or two and perhaps a modicum of Irish keening. The point, my dear reader, is that through hard work and smart choices, I lost the weight. Methinks it’s wandering around on someone else’s body.
But that’s not the best part. The best part is that, for the most part, I have happily and easily kept the weight off for more than eight years. The picture above is me with my dad a few years ago: in it, I’m about 140 pounds. (I’m nearly 5’9.) I weigh a little less than that today: not supermodel-skinny, but slender in the right places and still very healthy and shapely.
This is something I can maintain for the rest of my life, and I want you to know that if you’re struggling with your weight, you can do it, too.
Friends who’ve known me since Buddha(belly) sometimes ask how I’ve accomplished this, especially as I adore food and am not shy about it.
This is a subject that can’t be fully explored in one short post, but here is part of the answer. I’ll be doing an ongoing series on this. If you have specific questions, please feel free to send them my way!
Start with the Quality and Type of Food You Ingest
I don’t like diets, even when they’re wrapped up in pretty packages and finished off with shimmery ribbons called “raw” or “high-protein” or “Atkins” or “vegan” or whatnot. They might help you create a focused mindset, as in “I will not mix proteins and carbs, and I will only eat raw fish, none cooked!” The focused mindset keeps you away from the Twinkies, which is good. But these diets give you a false sense of control, emphasizing exclusion rather than moderation. They treat the symptom of overeating, not the underlying cause. In the end, these diets — and they are all diets –are about wiping out whole categories or macronutrients in the name of “health.”
Excluding real food from your diet doesn’t make you healthy; eating real food makes you healthy. And by real food, I mean the kind I’ll describe below. Focusing on a balanced diet returns us to what humans have evolved to eat: vegetables. Meats. Nuts. Seeds. Fruits. Grains. Dairy. The occasional treat. Vino. It’s all good.
Eating real food that’s been raised right will satisfy you. When you’re satisfied, you’ll be inclined to eat less.
So let’s start with the quality, and then we’ll get to the quantity in further posts. And note that this post is being submitted to Real Food Wednesday, hosted today over at Kelly the Kitchen Kop.
1) Eat food, not foodless foods.
“Protein bars” are candy bars masquerading as health food. Eat eggs. Plastic-wrapped diet dinners that you rip open and nuke are about as nutritious as a stiletto. I’ll eat rice, not puffed-up, denatured cereal or overly processed white bread. Eggs, not EggBeaters. Meat, not meat substitutes. (If you’re a vegetarian, then go for beans and real tofu or tempeh, not overly processed vanilla soy milk or fake meats.) I eat tons of vegetables, not just supplements. Honey, not aspartame.
2) Eat food that does not need packaging.
A banana has its own packaging. So does fish. Does your meal contain a “just-add-water” mix or come in a box or can? Make that the accessory to your diet, not the main focus.
3) Focus on the quality of your food.
The higher up the food chain you go, the more important it is to choose organic/pastured/wild, etc. As I say in my book, Healthy Eats Here!, you can peel the carrot, but you can’t wash the pesticides off the pork chop.
This is about health, not just weight. There’s no use being slender and fit if you’re in the hospital with a tumor.
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4) Pay more for your food.
This accomplishes two goals: it means you’ll be seeking out the highest-quality meats, cheeses, vegetables and grains you can find, and that benefits your overall long-term health. And if you’re paying more, you’ll eat less of overall. We not only get what we pay for; we respect what we pay for.
5) Eat food that your ancestors have been eating for centuries and even millenia, not products that have been out for decades or days.
That means real butter, not margarine or even Earth Balance. (I’m looking at you, vegans. Read the label on that thing.) That means traditional fats such as lard (which is still used widely in China today, a country until now not known for obesity) as opposed to cottonseed oil and those containing Trans Fats.

Eat the quinoa, not the burger bun. Eat a salad with rotisserie chicken; it’s just as fast as a microwaved meal but lacks the 37 different multi-syllabic laboratory ingredients. Drink water and tea or even coffee, not Red Bull.
The Romans ate all sorts of fish, fowl, meats, vegetables, grains, fermented foods, traditional breads, cheeses and olive oil. The Ming Dynasty folks were not standing in line at Mingy D’s.
Ask yourself if your ancestors would recognize what you’re about to put in your mouth. If they wouldn’t, then reconsider eating it.
6) Cut the sugar.
If you scale back on prepackaged foods, you’ll make great strides towards cutting down on sugar. And when I say sugar, I mean all forms: high-fructose corn syrup, prevalent in most packaged foods (including breads, which often contain their own form of sugar — white flour). Eschew sugar substitutes, which have been shown to cause cravings for sugar. When choosing fruit, notice whether you’re consistently reaching for the high-sugar ones (such as ripe bananas) or for the low-sugar ones (such as berries). Either way, try fruit for dessert; that’s what the Italians and Greeks have been doing for centuries.
Fruit for dessert works. This is my Italian mother:
7) Eat in season.
Your food will taste better if it’s local and in season. A summer tomato or a perfectly ripe, juicy, succulent peach will never taste the same when imported from 3,000 miles away in January. When you eat food at is peak, you get more nutritional and taste bang for your buck. You’ll need less to stay satisfied. And you’ll be eating more fruits and vegetables, as, let’s face it: packaged foods that won’t expire until your grandson has dentures don’t really have seasons.
The best way to eat in season? Shop at a farmer’s market. You’ll likely save money, too. (Put it towards your new wardrobe fund.)
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Next in this series: weight-loss and maintenance tips to take to the kitchen, as well as to the table. We’ll be covering HOW to eat as much as what to eat, and many of the tips are pretty painless.




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I totally agree! Real food is the way to go. And you and your mother both look fabulous!
thank you so much for posting this! I’ve been documenting my weight loss using real food on my blog on Fridays. I’m taking a weight loss class through my local YMCA and another weight loss challenge with an Herbalife distributor, and it’s so frustrating when I disagree with the whole no-fat / processed foods things. Good to know other people have done it!
Great tips! So I’m assuming I already know your opinion on this, but I’ll ask anyway. What about those new sweeteners – stevia and then it’s processed cousin, Truvia? Stevia comes directly from a plant…I’ve never tried it. I bought Truvia on a whim (hey, I had a coupon…I was weak) but then started doing some reading and saw mixed reviews about it. Thoughts? I generally tend towards natural sweeteners – honey, agave, and yes, the occasional sugar (or even more my favorite – piloncillo, brown sugar, or molasses). But I don’t actually consume much in the way of sweeteners in general.
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Great list, I am looking forward to reading the rest of this series! And your mom – wow she is stunning!
I know; it’s kind of unnerving to have a mother who’s more beautiful than you.
Thank you for coming over, Christy! I’m excited about the rest of the series. This is stuff we can actually do. And it really, really works.
Yay, Wendy! Very proud of you.
Alta, I want to see more long-term research on Stevia, but I’m not outright opposed to it. (As for the pink stuff, blue stuff and yellow stuff, YES I AM.)
I’ve had the actual Stevia leaf: you can grow it as an herb in your garden, and it’s quite sweet and makes a good accent with mint in drinks and ice creams. But I personally dislike the taste of stevia-sweetened foods and tend to steer clear. And wonder whether it induces sugar cravings the way artificial sweeteners do.
In general, I find that the following works: cut back on sugar everywhere else in your diet, then enjoy your occasional treats as treats.
This is great and I, too, look forward to more in this series. Thanks for doing this!
What an inspiring post! Love it and your message. Congrats on your awesome life
Thanks, Darya!
FYI, ya’ll, I find Darya to be a kindred spirit. Hers is one of the finest health blogs you’ll come across.
Holly, except for the grains and dairy products, you sound like a paleo eater. But the grains and dairy put you in the Mediterranean camp.
[For those who like to label and pigeon-hole people.]
You seem thus far to epitomize the growing concensus in the nutrition-science community as to what constitutes the healthiest way of eating.
Keep up the great work.
-Steve
This is great info–thank you! someone commented on stevia. Stevia actually is very health promoting. It naturally has 0 calories, 0 carbs, and a 0 GI, lowers high blood sugar to put in proper balance lowers high blood pressure without affecting normal or low blood pressure, and nourishes the pancreas. The leaf naturally contains 100 different nutrients and may be used to treat type 2 diabetes. It helps prevent cavities because it contains natural flouride, can help heal open wounds, soothes sore throates in a spray, soothes upset stomachs as a tea, can be used for skin care to diminish wrinkles and promote soft skin, and may even boost brain function. However, these are effects of pure, natural stevia, not Truvia, or most stevia products on the markets that are laden with maltodextrin, dextrose, sugar alcohols, or a combo at least a few with high concentrations of them, including Truvia. I personally use SweetLeaf , which is a rather pure brand of stevia that retains the 0 calorie, 0 carb, 0 GI properties because there aren’t additives like there are in others and no chemicals that others have do to chemical extraction.
Also, natural, pure stevia regularly part of our diet actually may help curb cravings for sweets because it provides the very nutrients we need in order to do so.
Thank you, Steve! Big fan of yours.
Great post! I couldn’t agree more with your philosophy (actually, my post today is a super condensed version on this!) I try to stay as close to the earth as I can with my good as well. Congrats on the weight loss!!!
Mingy D’s. I almost laughed.
Great post, and keep up the great work.
You da man, Craig. Folks, this is “moonlit” man. Do what he says.
I agree with you 3000%. I’ve dropped about 10 BMI points, and I eat grains, beens, butter, bacon, cheese, veggies, some fish, very little meat, too much fruit. Things could be worse. I have to admit to using Splenda in my coffee (haven’t researched why I shouldn’t), and I do eat bread, cheese, etc. I exercise a LOT, and everything I eat can’t be fibery and high nutrition, occasionally I just want some calories.
I look forward to reading more of you posts.
Thank you, Julie! Congratulations, and welcome.